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Please do not ask me for fabric content, to take close up photos of the fabric, to get measurements without a please and thank you. Don't ask for these things and then disappear without a trace. Seems like you are asking just for the sake of asking and you really disrespect the seller. Thank you. End of rant.

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86 Comments

herparallax @bellanblue 😡

Dec 02Reply

bellanblue amen sista! chirp chirp. don't waste our valuable time!

Dec 02Reply

herparallax @bellanblue I'm so sick of it I got 5 today. It's like... Really..

Dec 02Reply

anasandoval73 @herparallax Good one!

Dec 02Reply

herparallax @anasandoval73 I reached my limit lol

Dec 02Reply

marina_wildhawk Ok... Seriously!! And may I add... For the love of you know what... Please don't post "trade?" when you can clearly see I didn't bother to respond to the three comments above yours that all said the same thing... I love you for posting this Sarah!! #keepingitreal

Dec 02Reply

herparallax @marinaschic that's another one lol. Esp when the listing says no trades! 😔

Dec 02Reply

herparallax @najjjelly I usually create a new listing and do negotiations there. If it is not bought I just delete it

Dec 02Reply

marina_wildhawk Totally!! "Sarah does not trade"... It seems pretty self explanatory!! Lol! 😝

Dec 02Reply

breenylyn @herparallax well said!

Dec 02Reply

tajiabo Haha for real though 🙌🏻

Dec 02Reply

forevermoon All of this happens to me all the time!! It's literally so annoying!! I'm glad I'm not the only one!

Dec 02Reply

shopherposh hey there! Honestly I've learned this is a basic rule now....I kid you not 90% of the questions like I get of these never respond and/ or do not buy. It's like black magic or some kind of Posh ghosts or trolls roaming around playing this sick joke on women. So, yeah basically I get measurements but i basically stay on the buyer like glue and make sure they buy. If I dont have time for the measurement I dont sweat it since 10% of them turn into sales

Dec 02Reply

charmboss Thank you! I needed to see this because I'm feeling the same. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I'm always asking myself are these people serious😳🤔😩😂

Dec 02Reply

weemeglet I applaud this! I'd like to stress a related point: I feel MEASUREMENTS, at least the basics like bust-waist-length/inseam, would be best included always. I'm more inclined to buy if I don't have take time to ask for important deets. I refer mostly to pre-owned garments, usually a bit stretched or shrunk, or bags. Saving their time turns browsers into buyers. Basically, I encourage any information that changes a casual "like" instead into an immediate offer or sale. My two cents!

Dec 02Reply

jackiiecruz @herparallax how can you not expect someone to ask for measurements about an item? People want to know if what they are buying is really going to fit them.

Dec 02Reply

weemeglet @herparallax @najjjelly Why DO people ask if you'll take $X instead of making an actual offer? Seems to show lack of committed interest, because otherwise wouldn't you just offer?

Dec 02Reply

rosebudcat Totally agree! So annoying. The newest one is people you purchase something and then say they didn't mean to do so. Really??? Or people who ask for a bundle price and you negotiate and then they tell you they don't have the money. 😜😂😂😂

Dec 02Reply

rosebudcat "Who" purchase something.

Dec 02Reply

weemeglet @herparallax @najjjelly Ooh, is it a way for asking for the seller to lower the price for that brief shipping discount? If so, it seems it would be nicer & more informative of your intent to say a little more than just the blunt "Would you take $X?" Then would the seller lower to the agreed price at a specific time, so the buyer snaps it up before anyone else can (seems risky) & thus enjoys a shipping discount while the seller still makes the same as had she'd accepted a traditional offer?

Dec 02Reply

herparallax @jackiiecruz I am not asking people to ask for measurements. I'm asking for the common decency to at least reply after I get them

Dec 02Reply

herparallax @messerac yes I usually don't sweat it. But I had someone make me measure a ton of things and disappear. I snapped lol.

Dec 02Reply

herparallax @pampam1965 yes but PFF you reply! Some people just go "fabric?" No please and no ty. They just disappear. And that really makes me mad lol. The dress will be on the site later on that piece is a pre order only at the moment

Dec 02Reply

dollface86 I have been thinking the exact same thing, it seems like it's some kind of mean prank sometimes. Good post Sarah 🙌😊

Dec 02Reply

herparallax @dollface86 feels like some people just ask for "fun" really. 😑

Dec 02Reply

ankaze Very true!

Dec 02Reply

dollface86 Lol 😆 hopefully this will help cut down on all that 😊

Dec 02Reply

shopherposh I'm a full-time Posher too and sometimes I just want to get Posh to start deactivating all of these profiles. Or basically any profile where the person is more trouble than they're worth and produce. There MUST be metrics on these things ; )

Dec 03Reply

door4 @herparallax i wish everyone would go by this common courtesy .. it would make lufe as a seller so much easier

Dec 04Reply

herparallax @4sq I feel ya girl! True story 😔

Dec 04Reply

e_l_e_a_n_o_r @herparallax xoxo

Dec 04Reply

planetqueen It must have happened just one too many times, huh? ;) I also hate it when people ask me to model something, especially when they just demand 'model'. When I tell them it's not my size, offer to give measurements, give the measurements of my mannequin, etc. they just disappear.

Dec 06Reply

herparallax @planetqueen it happens everyday for me 😞 I lost it when it happened over five times in one day lol!

Dec 06Reply

brittneyb125 Or when they ask you to make a bundle, and then they don't purchase their bundle or didn't even tell you!!

Dec 06Reply

your_fav_hbs OMG 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 thank you!!! Im not the only one asking for a little sense of curtesy, asking for do this, do that, then despair with at least said " THANK YOU ". So thank you girl !! Happy holidays everyone 🎄

Dec 14Reply

jina123 @herparallax 👌🏼 so true! If you notice some of my things have extreme detail in the measurements- there was one posher who would ask one question, then the next week I'm at work and she asks another measurement specific, so I update again....this happens like 4 times on 2 different items. And then POOF! Gone. 😡 now I try to at least put the basics but it takes time...

Dec 29Reply

herparallax @saucedojeneen3 well I can't put down measurements I have 500 available listings and each listing have three different sizes. I always put down if it's true to size or not. But sometimes clothing fit different on different people. So I prefer people to ask me about fit. I mean a size small will fit a 32a bust and a 36d bust completely different but spamming me "measurements? Fabric?" on twenty of my items and not giving me a single reply is like... 😩

Dec 30Reply

jina123 @herparallax I hear you! So true. 👍🏼

Dec 30Reply

nickrye Amen

Jan 06Reply

herparallax @nickrye 🙆🏼

Jan 06Reply

spottythedot Lol ! I so agree ! Kriss

Jan 07Reply

swanimee @herparallax 👍🏽

Jan 10Reply

goldcoastdyes Omg can I steal this and post it in my closet?!

Jan 10Reply

bellamoda13 @herparallax I agree it's annoying but if Poshmark changed their setup that you must add measurements for garments, then people would stop asking, right? Plus they could search and filter to their specific measurements. Also a filter for yes or no trades. This way people aren't a&$h0les with questions and filter to what they want. And another filter for firm price so that the offer button goes away. I hope @Poshmark reads this

Jan 10Reply

juliera OMG YES! This post is gold. That is one of the most annoying things ever!

Jan 11Reply

thefunkyroyals All I have to say is.........YEAH!.......... It really perplexes me how rude some people can be, how or why they even think saying/doing certain things is in the slightest bit okay. Like how difficult is it to stop & think about what you do/say before hand, think about other people's feelings & for the love of God please leave the rude comments, behavior & all the other garbage behavior in the garbage! Or trailer park, the parking lot behind the local Wendy's, etc. Great Post!

Jan 15Reply

shelli03 Love this!!!! 👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼

Jan 16Reply

saysamon Preach girl 🙏!!!!

Jan 22Reply

herparallax @saysamon I try! 😊

Jan 22Reply

wildfiber @herparallax hi there! So, I randomly came across your blog today and when I clicked on "meet the posher" I wasn't surprised it was you! I adore your closet and your blog is FANTASTIC- I can't wait to finish reading (:

Jan 25Reply

poshgarden Lol, Amen Sista! 💟😘

Jan 26Reply

czarinascloset @herparallax Totally agree! Also what is up with people who creat a bundle and never buy? So frustrating! Glad you guys get it. Sending good vibes for lots of sales for all of us!

Jan 28Reply

beekers @herparallax I answered (very nicely) many questions about a pair of my Jeans today. Went out of my way to provide an extra picture, explain its authenticity, etc.., then WHAM! I was called "rude", etc...for not accepting her lowball offer of 65% off my fair asking price. Manners and courtesy escape some people! 🙄 Cute closet, btw!

Jan 30Reply

herparallax @beekers aww I'm sorry that had to happen to you 😞

Jan 30Reply

beekers @herparallax Thanks! I'm new'ish to Posh, but now I'm starting to understand sellers frustrations! I'm glad I have a sense of humor. 😀 I don't know how you deal with it having 100's of listings!

Jan 30Reply

kkaarreenn I had someone ask me what the lowest I would take pn an item, so I told her to make an offer using thenoffer button she came back with, "I don't have any money to make an offer that's why I asked what the lowesr was!" WTF? 😠😠😠😠

Feb 03Reply

shopjennajade Poshmark should have a series of hypothetical questions they ask each user before allowing them to join. If they pass then welcome you have passed having common sense and basic manners. And if they fail then nope sorry you can't sit with us! That way all idiots will be banned from driving us insane daily and we can live happy, Poshmark lives! ;D This post is perfect for poshers to vent, seriously love this! Glad I'm not the only one who gets frustrated on a daily basis.

Feb 04Reply

chulaart I totally agree! What annoys me the most is taking the time to answer questions and not even getting a "Thank You" or "No, won't work for me" type of reply.

Feb 06Reply

owlsandellies Your clothes already show on models. I have a mannequin-like sewing form for my clothes and I still get asked to "model" the item! Like yes, I'm going to do that when you can see how it looks already! I suspect they are jerking my chain so I usually give them the attention they deserve: I ignore them!😝 I'm bad, I know. 😔

Feb 09Reply

herparallax @ltcwheatex 🙌🏻

Feb 09Reply

lepinquebotique how come we cannot receive love notes as buyers? that way , we can tell who are really posh buyers and not posh trollers

Feb 09Reply

miami_wife lolll

Feb 15Reply

daisyfigz I ❤️ this its so true. It can really get to you👍Can i copy this I love this maybe a few ppl can get this thru their head already lol 😃

Feb 20Reply

cherryapparel Love this! 😎

Feb 20Reply

herparallax @tammy4444 😊😊😊

Feb 20Reply

abohemianchild Hey Doll I just saw your post on FB re: wholesale. Can you tell me more. You can message me on fb if easier thanks so much 😍

Mar 07Reply

arlene70 Yup that's so wrong very wrong

Apr 09Reply

tonistwinkles @herparallax Amen!! 😁😁😁

Apr 10Reply

irenagf @herparallax omg can this please be mass shared to everyone on posh? Lol... these are wise words!! 😉😘

Apr 24Reply

amyleigh71 May I use this in my closet?

Apr 25Reply

herparallax @amyleigh71 sure! But please give photo cred :)

Apr 25Reply

akingcade YES!!! This is everything 🙌🏻🙌🏻

Jun 03Reply

herparallax @agar70 I have 650 available listings. Out of this 500 of them have three sizes each and various colors. I have a full time job, run a business and also my poshmark closet. Time is not a luxury I have 😔

Jun 11Reply

herparallax @agar70 that info is provided to people that are not asking for fun. When you have someone just tag 10 of your listings with fabric? Measurements? No please and just disappear after you give it to them. Or when you have answered the same question three times in one single listing.. These aren't people that will buy from you. And that is 5 mins I could spend doing something else. So I'm saying at least have the courtesy to respond and to stop asking "for fun"

Jun 11Reply

beautifulame @herparallax so true 🙄

Jul 19Reply

jmottle @herparallax DITTO! I can't tell you how many times I've had requests like this with absolutely no follow up afterwards. Thanks for ranting!! It's well warranted.

Jul 25Reply

swirlygurl Ugh I'm in complete agreement and have a similar listing in my closet? Ggrrrrrrrrr 😡

Sep 18Reply

bellanovella I just wanted to say thank you for the shares. I am new at this and just stumbled across you blog. So thank you for that as well.

Dec 22Reply

herparallax @donnaguy aww you're welcome! And welcome to Poshmark!!

Dec 22Reply

longswamplady @weemeglet Hi. I am strictly a buyer. I agree that at minimum you should list measurements and fabric content. Or to make it easier, take picture of tag that lists fabric. I also have to tell you that it works both ways. I bet 80% of my questions are never answered by the seller. Thank you for listening. ☺

Jan 10Reply

gossipgirl212 Amen. Had someone curse on one of my postings because another posher falsely claimed that another retailer online had the same item on sale. That got other poshers angry. Had they verified the claim by going to the website, they would have seen that it was false. Deleted the listing and gifted it, thankfully I had just bought it so it was very new. Also had another ask whether a photo was real (on my most expensive listing nonetheless). I discovered blocking👍

Jan 29Reply

gossipgirl212 Thank you so much for the share btw❤️

Jan 29Reply

herparallax @gossipgirl212 ahh the posh life lol 😔

Jan 29Reply

gossipgirl212 @herparallax yup, unnecessarily stressful at times, but thankfully met som3 wonderful people on here😁

Jan 29Reply

herparallax @gossipgirl212 yep! PFFs definitely make it better. There are some awesome people on here! But recently I've been finding out that the not so nice people are making the posh burn out even more intense than usual. The bf is always like why are you sighing at your phone lol 😂😂

Jan 29Reply

gossipgirl212 @herparallax sorry to hear that. I get bummed out too and people are like “ you have a real job, why don’t you focus on that?” true, let me not lose my job, but ... pm is so addicting, I may eventually go full-time. Bye-bye law degree, hello even more shopping? Lol, we’ll see.

Jan 29Reply